“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
This is a very powerful quote. It takes so much energy to hold onto certain beliefs, thoughts and people even if we know that they are no longer serving us. We become comfortable thinking, behaving and being around the same people because that’s all we know. When I first learned the concept of “letting go”, I felt empowered and refreshed somehow. But the next thing I found out was how hard it was to actually let go. It is easier said than done. You can say you have let go without releasing the resentment, anger and bitterness which are holding you back from living the life to the fullest. Obviously you have to actually release the negativity and tell yourself that that’s the best thing to do for you. It really is draining trying to hold onto a relationship which was not working out. We had different values, goals in life and we really had nothing in common and nothing was left. But then I kept holding onto what I thought we had in common..it was exhausting because I constantly trying to control the other person and there was nothing I could do to change my partner at that time. That was who he was and I had to basically let go of the expectations and the desperation because I simply didn’t want to be alone at that time. It was really hard to let go but I did and it was followed by intense emptiness like I had never felt that much void in life. It took me a while, but I am glad that I actually did release everything about that relationship and my ex and let everything go. Both good and bad..I let them go. I still embrace the memories that we shared and wish him the best. Surprisingly, now that I am almost fully over (thus I have actually let go of a lot of painful stuff) him, I genuinely wish him all the happiness. It was the most selfless act of kindness..was to let go and move on.
This isn’t just about letting go of people and relationships but you may want to let go of certain expectations you impose on yourself or on others. Even though you hate having these expectations, your brain is used to thinking this way so it is actually pretty tough to break the pattern. So it requires you to really “let go” and release all the expectations. You have to keep trying and trying until you finally let go..I promise it would be the most rewarding day of your life. By letting go, you will be free, you will become yourself, live your life to the fullest with the values you stick to.