Life can be very stressful especially when we are dealing with more than one problem..unfortunately that’s part of life and we have to be able to cope with multiple issues. Sometimes I feel like this big wave is trying to swallow me and I am going to drown. I keep resisting the wave and try to swim away from it but I can’t escape the wave forever..
We live in a very stressful world today and we all have “responsibilities” we are expected to meet as contributing members of the society. But there’s only so much that we can do..so it is important to tell yourself..one thing at a time, one day at a time..and one moment at a time. Now I have to tell myself to take one moment and one task at a time as my workload has been very heavy and there are personal issues going on. No wonder I feel like massive waves are coming at me and I have the fight or flight response. As I deal with overwhelming feelings, these are the step that I am taking to cope with my reactions toward the stressful events and projects.
First of all, it is ok to get scared, be nervous and anxious. It is normal!
Nothing is wrong with being anxious and feeling overwhelmed. It is only normal and it just means that we are responsible people who try to do this correctly. Believe me..if you don’t care about other people, yourself or your job, you won’t be nervous.
Compartmentalize: Try to make a list of things that you need to do and mark each task with A (priority), B (work on this after completing the projects with A), C (low priority)..it is overwhelming to see the endless list of things to do without knowing where to tackle first.
Take a long deeeeeeep breath-When we are anxious, we are often taking many shallow breaths without even realizing it. It is important to even exercising your breathing with youtube videos. It’s free and there are many videos that teach you how to relax your muscles and mind through breathing exercises.
Exercise!: Your muscles are all tensed up because of stress and anxiety. Exercise, preferably cardiovascular exercise so you do sweat and pump the heartbeat up..after about 10 minutes, you will feel the difference. I have to force myself to exercise when I am anxious or when I feel numb..It sucks to have to deal with these two opposing states but exercise seems to really help. I always feel a little better..much better after 20 minutes work out.
“You cannot stop the waves, but you can learn to surf..”
by Jon Kabat-Zinn