The post break up stage is probably the most emotional roller coaster ever. It is more of a bumpy ride than actually being in the relationship was. First, you are sad, then you want to revenge, then you want to catch feelings with a rebound; then you are sad again-not to mention you’re lonely AF.
When you get over the first wave of sadness you will want to seek revenge on your ex which will lead you to seek a rebound. Here is the thing, rebound relationships are never successful. The reason for this is because you can’t be with someone if you are hung up on someone else.
The excuse that you are just in the rebound relationship to make your ex jealous is not fair either because now you are involving someone else’s feelings. That is not right for the third party involved.
There really is no way you could ever devote yourself fully to one person if you still really love someone else. This is something that takes time.
You really cannot go from loving someone for so long to having no interest in them overnight. It is completely okay to need time to get over your ex. It is so normal, and you should never feel like it is not.
If walking by a coffee shop or restaurant brings back memories of your ex in an instant, you most definitely are not over him yet. You need to remain single until you can confidently walk by these places without being flooded with memories of your ex.
You also need to remain single long enough until you have enough confidence and love for yourself as a person. This is the key to starting a new relationship. After going through the emotional roller coaster of a break up it is common to feel less confident in yourself.