Isolation and heartbreak: Inside BPD

An inspiring article about the mother of a daughter afflicted with borderline personality disorder. As you may understand, BPD is a serious mental disorder that can cause the sufferer’s loved ones enormous emotional suffering. Chloe is the name used to identity the sufferer of borderline personality disorder was adopted by her mother and the mother says her adopted daughter started to exhibit extreme mood swings, violence and suicidal ideation after her biological mother died.

Because Nicole has to be there for her daughter, she had to leave her job to care for Chloe at home and made all kinds of excuses to her friends who weren’t invited to her home. That’s another worst part of this disorder-stigma!

Not only that suffering from BPD is really painful, the sufferer has to deal with stigma associated with this controversial illness and many therapists are reluctant to work with these patients. And that stigma makes things very difficult and stressful to their loved ones as well.

Although the article does not go into details as to whether Chloe experienced abuse, this story illustrates typical scenario surrounding borderline patients and their loved ones. And this story shows that borderline personality disorder is not simply a “psychological condition” that can just be fixed. For someone like Chloe, she will need interventions that require both medical and psychological interventions and her family also needs extensive counseling to avoid very risky situations.

I feel for this girl and her family but only because people like them, general public can learn more about the disorder instead of simply judging the condition.

By Anne Simmons

A sign on the door of a West Gippsland mother’s home once restricted anyone who did not show empathy from entering. Nicole and her son George either make up lies about why they cannot take guests, or suggest to meet at other people’s houses.

There, the glassware and knives haven’t been swapped for plastic alternatives. In an interview with the Express, Nicole has asked for her family’s identity to be protected, because of the ongoing judgement her family experiences.

Nicole said her 22 year-old daughter Chloe had high suicidal tendencies and extreme displays of emotion preventing her from employment. “She’s tried to kill herself at least once a week, and three times a year she will be close to going,” Nicole said.

“It’s only by luck she hasn’t died so far.”

Frequent trips to Melbourne clinics amount to Chloe trying to jump out of the car as it races at 100 kilometers an hour down the freeway. Chloe has a severe form of borderline personality disorder, which has kept Nicole out of work for three years now caring for her daughter.

“I’ve had to extinguish a lot of friendships just to manage our house,” Nicole said.

“Not many people like my daughter. For me that’s heartbreaking in itself.”

Until recently, the Gippsland mother of two has avoided taking her daughter out in public because of her loud name-calling. Now that Nicole has taken part in a program at Latrobe Regional Hospital for the family members and carers of people with BPD, her life has taken an astounding turn for the better.

 

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