I still struggle with identity

I've always struggled to define myself..it's almost like trying to see myself through foggy windows and the strangest feeling is that I don't even know who the person in pictures is. I had this picture of me and my ex at the college graduation ceremony. I knew the girl in…

We can’t change others

It is hard to accept this but we cannot change other people. We can only change our reactions to other people and the situations and it is a waste of time hoping and trying to change someone. I believe that everybody is capable of changing for the better but the…

Be selfish, it is ok

~Self-care is not selfish or self-indulgent. We cannot nurture others from a dry well. We need to take care of our own needs first, then we can give from our surplus, our abundance. By Jennifer Louden. After years of therapy, I am finally becoming more comfortable with the concept of…

Overcoming life’s obstacles

Life can be challenging and when I think about the stuff that happened to me between 2010-2011 summar..I think that the university was throwing stuff at me just to test my limit. I definitely became stronger and feel like I can handle anything after going through something like that..It is…

Without trust

Without trust, it's only a matter of time before relationships crumble.. ~Anonymous I have major trust issues and I know why I do. I don't want to sound like I am trying to gain sympathy (I hate when other people do that!) but I am pretty sure that it's because…

Life rarely goes as planned

Life is about embracing the unknown, unexpected changes and the inevitable. ~me We don't always have control over our lives. We would like to think that we do but the reality is that we have very little control over our lives.   When I was in college, I was naive enough…

How to develop a thick skin

Nobody likes to be hated and criticisms are generally hard not to take too personally. Someone can make a comment about your dress. She didn't mean to hurt your feeling but you were angry about your friend's snide remark. I remember the first constructive criticism that I received from my…

Going with the flow

After graduating from college with a degree in Sociology, I didn't know what to do with myself. I chose Sociology because  I was initially trying to major in psychology which required extensive science and biology courses..to learn the brain function and all that, so I took one introductory sociology course…

How to make the right decision

I have relied on other people to make decisions for me..sure I made a massive decision to move to America after high school in Japan, but it felt more like.."I didn't have a choice" and it has been my pattern for the past 30 years or so.  I grew up…
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